My Secret to Yoga Kiss
I did not consider that one breath is going to redefine intimacy to me. I thought as a devoted yogi that I knew connection; to my body, my breath and my spirit. However, it was when I discovered the notion of a Yoga Kiss that I really got to know how to relate with another human being.
This is not a kiss, it is an emotional prayer. It is something that has introduced more presence, tenderness and deeper awareness to my life than I could ever imagine. And I will show you what I have learned in this lovely journey.
What Exactly Is a Yoga Kiss?
The first time I heard the word, I was interested. A Yoga Kiss is not characterized by a certain technique or a set of moves. For me, it’s a philosophy. It is the conscious practice of yogic principles, the practice of mindfulness, of breath awareness, of being in the moment, of daily, everyday things, as the act of kissing.
It is not an impulsive, hurried action. Rather, a Yoga Kiss is an intentional, mutual connection with which I am wholly engaged with the feeling, connection, and the flow of energy. I put my distractions aside, put down the noise of the mind, and concentrate my entire being on that one point of contact. It is connected to the feeling of the fine energy, or prana, passing between me and my partner.
The way this practice changed the relationship with me.
Prior to adopting this conscious method, my kisses, as well as those of many other, were frequently a prelude, a step in the procession that led to another. I wasn’t fully there. It was with the Yoga Kiss that it all changed as it changed my intention. It was not so much about performance but common presence.
The gains which I have had are very tangible:
Greater Intimacy of the Heart: Through complete presence, I establish a serene environment of openness and trust with my partner.
Less Stress and Anxiety: The mindfulness meditation and focused breathing serve as a mini-meditation, which relaxes my nervous system.
Increased Sensory awareness: I feel everything- the texture, the temperature, and the slight pressure in such a manner that I was not previously aware.
Better Communication: The practice helped me to listen wholeheartedly and feel the energy of my partner and not only respond to it, but respond with my heart.
My Foundational Pillars of a Yoga Kiss.
According to my practice, I have discovered that the actual transformative Yoga Kiss is built on three main pillars. It is just a kiss on lips without these. With them, it becomes magic.
1. The Anchor of Breathing Minute.
In yoga, breath is life. It is its basis in a Yoga Kiss. My emphasis is to have a soft, smooth, and loud breath by using my nose. This breathing is the Ujjayi breathing also known as ocean breath, which keeps me in the present. I hear my partner breath, and we gradually come in sync with each other creating a beautiful and rhythmical dance of mutual life force. Should my mind be wandering, I bring it once more to sound and feeling of my breath.
2. The Art of Full Presence
This is the most difficult yet the most rewarding part. I consciously choose to release. I get everything out of my mind about my to-do list, how I appear, or what may come up next. I bring my consciousness all the way down into the physical sensations of the kiss, the tenderness of the lips, the slight changes in pressure, the sensation of warmth. I do not think about the kiss; I am the kiss.
3. The Energy of Gentle Touch
A yoga kiss goes beyond the lips. I realize my whole body and the body of my partner. I put a hand on their heart, which is usually gentle, or we are holding hands. This provides a full loop of energy whereby we are free to circulate prana among ourselves. It is not a grabbing, possessive touch but a receptive, soft point of contact telling in a way that I am here with you.
My How to Step-by-Step To Your First Yoga Kiss.
Ready to try? The following is the basic sequence that I used when I started my practice.
Get a Soulful Intention: Start a moment with your partner first. One may sit facing the other, possibly in a cross-legged exercise. Hold hands, stare into each other and make 3 deep and synchronized breaths. Unconsciously establish a purpose of connectedness and being there.
Breath in Time: You are to close your eyes and to lean your foreheads together. Another minute of breathing in unison. Just feel the rhythm. There is no hurry in this part; this is where the connection is made.
Start with Awareness: take your time when the right moment arrives and come together slowly towards the kiss. And see how tenderly it may begin. Continue to breathe continuously.
Remain with the Sensation: When kissing, be conscious of the point of contact. Notice everything. When your mind is roving, admit the thought without shame and get back into the sensation of the lips and the noise of the breath.
Release and Reflect: And part gradually. Close your eyes and stop and have a second look, foreheads still close. Shake hands with a gentle smile or a silent thank you.
Looming the Yoga Kiss into the Waffen of Your Life.
You do not have to go through a 90 minutes yoga session to feel it. I started by using it during little situations.
And a slow, conscious good morning kiss, and then the busyness of the day sets in.
Reconnecting kiss as I or my partner comes home.
A soft kiss of goodnight to complete the day in a state of peaceful intercourse.
The Yoga Kiss has served as a window into living a more conscious life to me. It taught me that the most simple things when done consciously can be the deepest rituals of being connected. It is something I come back to every day, a wonderful lesson that the most significant degrees of intimacy are not in big gestures, but in one, mindful, breath-taking instant.
Brief FAQ
Q: Do I have to be a good yogi in order to give a Yoga Kiss a try?
A: Absolutely not. I wasn’t when I started. You just have to be willing to be there and you have to breathe consciously. It has got nothing to do with poses.